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My advise is do not bring it up unless there is very hard evidence that it is taking place.
October 31, 2018 at 11:12 pm in reply to: My 10year olds mum is trying to take her to Australia to live . #11042It is very frustrating, how ever you can imagine the amount of cases F4J have to deal with as a campaign.
Have you read the section on prohibited steps orders? The only way to prevent her taking your children is to apply for PSO. You can do this yourself by printing out a C100 form and send the application to the court.
Have you been ordered to have supervised contact? I see my girls at a supported contact centre at a church and it’s completely free. It’s not even been ordered by the courts so I have applied for child arrangements to progress from supported to unsupported contact. It’s on the say so of my ex. Either that or nothing.
October 18, 2018 at 4:48 pm in reply to: Lost faith in solicitors so in need of advice and support #10990Contact a McKenzie friend they are very helpful. They will cost you soo much less than a solicitor. I’ve been using mine since day go and he has been fantastic.
She will soon look silly in court when she can’t prove any thing and if you can prove her lies even better.
The order won’t stop contact unless there has been child abuse. I accepted a non mol order because she alleged violence I could not offer an undertaking.
I don’t care about the fact I can’t do the lies she said I did because I have no interest in going any where near her and accepting the order proves that. I’m currently taking her back to court to progress from supported contact in a centre to unsupported contact where ever I like.
No you won’t need any evidence on Friday. If he wants to
Challenge all the allegations then there will be a fact finding hearing at another date.The problem with challenging the allegations is that if there is domestic abuse founded he could be ordered to pay the court costs. Offering an undertaking is the easiest option. If she has alleged violence then you won’t be able to offer an undertaking. But what you can do is accept the order on the basis that he does not accept any of the allegations and that there has been no findings. Ask the courts to write this on the non mol order.
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My ex suffers with an anxiety disorder yet I need to prove that I am mentally stable and she doesn’t need to prove that she is stable (And the children are living with her)
I will have to provide a letter from my doctor detailing my mental health. If she brings it up, they are likely to ask for a letter from your doctor.She threatened to call social services to report me too but I haven’t heard from them because they will on my act if there are facts.
About the emotional abuse…She is gas lighting you. My ex did the same to me. She is trying to push you to breaking point so that you do do some thing that she can use against you. You cannot react with her or argue. As you probably do, always tell your kids that you love them no matter what any one else says. Tell them not to believe her, at the same time don’t say any thing bad about her to them like that she is the mad one.
My ex used to call me a monster which made me angry then she would say I have anger issues and I said well that’s because you called me a monster. Then she would say she never said that. Sooo many times she would do that I would get angry because of some thing she said then ‘I didn’t say that, you are going mad’
It’s tough man but hang in there and try not to let her break you down because that’s what she wants.
It’s likely you will be in the court room for a every short period of time and they will give directions for a fact finding hearing
Find a supported contact centre and make a self referral because if she doesn’t allow that than that will show how unreasonable she is. Also seeing your kid for 2 hours every fortnight is better than nothing. It will look really bad on her if she doesn’t agree to that. Bring on the fact finding. I’m going through the same thing. Best to get all this shit over with now and get a court order for child arrangements.
When cafcass get involved you can expect them to not pay much interest in your say and they will make suggestions to the court ie if she says you are abusive, cafcass will suggest a fact finding. In my case I said I’m concerned because she suffers with an anxiety disorder and I’m worried about the children, and she said that I suffer with depression (I really don’t…I have been on anti depression meds once in my life in 2007 And gave up on them after a few weeks) I have to prove that I am sane and she doesn’t. How does that work…My kids live with some one with a mental health problem however
October 9, 2018 at 12:45 pm in reply to: Why isn't denial of child access a Criminal Offence under Coercive Control Laws #10936Csfcass did say by the means of a letter from my doctor (stating mental health and detailing an alcohol or drug abuse)
I’m not worried at all because the letter will be positive.The courts also got things arse about face…. cafcass were asked to do their letter after the final hearing for a PSO. So if I was a an addict I would have ample time to get clean. However I am squeaky clean so I’ve sent off my child arrangements application. Cafcass also advised a fact finding hearing and I say bring it on. I’ve already accepted a NMO order based on no facts being found and I don’t accept any allegation so now it won’t look bad on me for proving each one of her allegations false and that she is a liar.
Man I had the same thing happen to me. Although my ex locked me out the house having no right to. If you have an email I can email you my number and i can try help
October 8, 2018 at 7:59 am in reply to: Why isn't denial of child access a Criminal Offence under Coercive Control Laws #10928I recently had the safe guarding letter from cafcass. Wasn’t too bad apart from the fact I have to prove that I’m sane because of her spurious allegations. What’s worse is that she has been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and my children are living with her!! Why does she not have to prove that she is sane!? I have been on anti depressants once in my life back in 2007 because of what I was going through at the time. So I’m certain she will be made to look like a fool, once again. Bloody sexist system though
September 23, 2018 at 10:30 pm in reply to: On bail on made up charges. How do i get to see my children? #10898Man to be brutally honest, the is now the end of your relationship with her for good. I will be very surprised if you are able to gain access to your house after 4 weeks with no evidence of the allegations and charges are dropped.
Similar scenario happened to me but not as bad. I never was arrested but she did try by making false reports to the police but they never did any thing. While I was at work she changed the locks on the house and packed all my things up and left them outside. I have never been back to the marital home since then.
My advice, lay low and do not attempt to go back. Things are finished with your wife now. I mean would you want to live under the same roof with such a malicious person?
Your only thing to do now is to invite her to mediation. You have to try this before you can take her to court for child arrangements. It doesn’t sound like you will be able to get to an amicable agreement with her on child access.
By all means try and text her re child access but do not bombard her with messages or phone calls or she can make allegations of harrassment.
Bru I’m sorry to tell you that nothing can be done apart from the arduous process of the family court.
Also don’t use a solicitor, rather contact a good McKenzie friend because they are ALOT cheaper and give even better advice than a solicitor. You can find one on a quick Google search.
You are better off getting a court order any way because then it’s ‘set in stone’ (not really because they do break the court orders and nothing gets done about it.) But if there is a regular pattern of breaches the judge will probably threaten to give you full custody and that is enough to shake your ex’s Apple tree. They usually play ball after that.
You will be wasting your money with a solicitor, unless you have loads of it.
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