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Ok, if I understand you correctly: the child is being represented by a guardian. If so this is the best possible result you get other than custody…
Dont leave court and continue with the hearings!
The Section 37 with the child is not the end of the world – 5 is quite young and they will be ok.
If you leave court it will look like you don’t care to them.CAFCASS are an evil organisation that thinks they are helping. Let them think they are helping for a little while longer. a couple years in court is nothing… I’ve been going for 11 years and could only dream of having a guardian for my girls.
This is just my opinion but an easy decision if it were me!
My advice is not have a solicitor but surely there is a substitute at the firm who can navigate a simple C7. You can write the court and explain but it will delay things… You can also fill in the C7 yourself and say you are representing yourself in this matter.
The issue is the visitation with the court – write an honest letter (with the C&) explaining the situation and that you are able to attend court anytime.
Just my advice.Tom,
I think you have made the right choice in ditching your solicitor. Each case and court is so different that there is not one stock answer to your questions.Do you have visitation with your children now? You are assuming your evidence will gain you access or custody of the kids, which may not be the case.
If the evidence you have against your ex is criminal and will have a custodial sentence, then you have a morale obligation to tell the police. But, if this evidence is only enrage your ex, hurt the kids is an attempt to get even, then your solicitor is right about not submitting it.Lets be honest here – your ex holds all the cards and sounds like an evil bitch.
July 21, 2017 at 9:48 am in reply to: Separation Advice concerning a limited company my wife is the sole owner of. #8606“Looks like you have quite a fight on your hands. Your ex sounds like an utter cunt. Expect the worse and please go shag her ex best friend” A genius statement, nice one Tom!
Assets are split equally during a marriage even with a prenup. get to court ASAP before she moves the money around and makes things hard. Keep all evidence and you have the right to move what every you like as it is half your business. She is just the director and holds the liability. You are entitled to half the assets and dividends – you would also be responsible for half the debts that fall outside the Ltd company.
I can see her settling at some point, sooner or later once she gets to court. Also, ignore solicitor letters about anything other than finances.
Stuart,
There is little you can do other then try and block it in the courts but will take time. I assume she is moving for a good reason?You are really in a tough spot and I wish things were different.
Sadly, this is the system. The mother gets to choose the destiny of the child – This is why Fathers 4 Justice exists.
There is a lot to consider with your case… If your son has been arrested, even without evidence, it will be used against him in family court. All the drugs and abuse by the mother will need to be proved to Social Services but even if you succeed this does not mean your son will benefit with more visitation. Try and look at the Social Services report as a statement from the mother and not as fact – CAFCASS is the same. What appears as a factual report might actually say “the mother reports” or “the mother says”.
On the grand scale of family court 11 weeks is not a long time… you need to start court somehow to regain your sanity.You, as a grandparent also has the right to start court presiding’s and this might be an option?
Good luck and I am sure others will have an opinion.
I have never heard of such a deduction. I travelled three hours each weekend for years without compensation… unless the rules have changed????
There is a distinct separation between visitation and maintenance and they do not intersect (unless she is demanding more money to see your kids in court – for some reason this comes up in court???).There is nothing you can do at the moment. She is the resident parent and is caring for the child as she see fit.
You are going through what we have all gone through – lies and lies and lies with a system designed to blame fathers for everything that goes wrong.
Chill… and start court! Most of this arguing will make no difference to the court and you need to try and patch things up enough to be able to communicate the your ex.A Molestation Order will most certainly slow every thing down. The system is flawed and the accuser will NEVER be blamed, which leads to endless false and destructive allegations.
Hey,
Sounds like you are going to have a long road here. I fear your past violence convictions are going to hurt your chances in court. But, this is about your relationship with your daughter and how you can be closer to her and your ex holds the key.Even if you win in court (which is slim with your convictions) your ex can still say NO. So, my advice is to patch it up as much as you can , even if you have to bite your lip!
Getting her arrested will most certainly stop you from seeing your daughter.. but I don’t know her history and the full case. Most of the time women get slap on the wrist and nothing happens to them, but you will feel the wrath forever!In my case I wish I had my ex arrested after knowing what was to come – this was just my experience.
Daddy Dan,
There are some very smart and professional people on this forum in the exact same boat as you. Some days positive thoughts are all we have…
We are here to help anyway we can but also help each other. Just ask if you have a direct question of if you need to chat, just let us know. Some one in your area going through the same thing can help.
Are you going to try the court route? There is some good advice on this site…
My ex was so angry at me when we split that she would deposit my girls to me without clothes or nappies and would say “Now you can feel the torture of having kids!”
Flash forward 10 years and I would Kill to feel that pain again!I work for the railway and they are always banging on for more women in engineering (I think it is a good thing) but they cant seem to figure out why the UK has one of the lowest rates in Europe???????????????? Hmmmmmmmm?????? I wonder??????
Seems the countries with the highest rates ALL have shared parenting. I can go into more detail but evidence is easily found.
It is hard to combat PA when you don’t have visitation.
Ryan Thomas offers some good advice and great stories. Try not to get roped into his fantastic spending opportunities. he suggest 6 questions you can ask your children to help them remember you!
Has not worked with my girls – but they are 9 years down a road they don’t even know they are travelling.PA is very real and I believe my children are victims. Sadly, it is seen as junk science in the UK. But, CAFCASS and a few judges make mention to it in reports and even give guidance for it.
The issue is the law – our current law gives all powers to the resident parent( so PA doesn’t even get looked at) and when the children are old enough to express their wishes and feeling, PA cannot be an issue if the child speaks their mind???Right??? Wrong!
In this country PA is a product of the system and not the other way round. In the States you find more cases of PA easier to prove because maintenance is connected to visitation. As we know, here in the UK PA is just the system.
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