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June 5, 2017 at 11:56 am in reply to: MPs and would be MPs are very open to discussion at the moment #8242
I went to my MP to help with my CSA issues. He was totally shocked once I explained the law to him.
Keep in mind, nothing has happened other than him saying he thought it was shocking.The country is scared of mothers. Scared to look like they don’t care for precious and misunderstood narcissists like my Ex.
This is a brilliant idea and I would wear one!
Has been tried in the past with other Mens Groups but without success. We are different and this might work. I wonder if Matt ever reads this forum?
I would put my ex wife on my badge to shame that evil cow for hurting the kids (she has two missing fathers her kids).Hey,
This is rough! really rough… but you will win eventually. Her allegations will slowly start to become white noise to the Social Services and Police. The Family Court is another issue on its own – but eventually, they will also tire to her nonsense.I have been there and done that – so I know what this feels like. You seem to have a good grasp of the issues and have been really upfront with work (good on ya)! As a teacher you probably stand to lose more than the average guy so remain calm and let her hang herself.
Common sense will NEVER prevail. This could go on for a little while but will eventually destroy her credibility be strong and behave yourself. Once your Daughter starts at school her school records will be far more important than anything else and you need to be in her life even if it is for short amounts of time. Do not ever lose contact completely or you are cooked.
Her hate for you is bigger than her love for the child. But, under the law she is allowed to call the shots. On the other hand, considering your job and the direct impact she is having on your ability to provide for your kids could be considered malicious and possibly criminal to log false accusations to the police.
I also see you had/have a lawyer. Not sure how that has worked out for you but I was able to represent myself with success. Save hours of time, money and heard the truth first hand with out manipulation from legal idiots who thought they knew what was best for the kids.
You are in a long battle here. This will not end soon but you are doing the right things. Juts remember to smile when you are with your daughter and always be a good dad.
Keep us posted…
These are the horrible decisions we have to make as the father in current legislation.
Was the same for me. I could not see my kids because of my profession (a bar owner) then when I got a day job to see the kids it want enough maintenance for her. The government should be ashamed but they are not!Everyone talks about shared parenting and statistics backs it up… but… under the current law, even if the court rules it the mother can still just say “NO”. Just a huge joke.
juts try your best to stay on the mothers good side and be happy the police are not involved.
Hey, Court takes a very long time… I would start court immediately.
Chamers, You are in the right place.
Someone on here may be able to help, or at least point in a good direction. this is a far more secure site than any other you are going to find, BTW.You situation sounds horrible and we know what you are going through. Start a new thread for the best response.
June 5, 2017 at 7:12 am in reply to: Wife wants to take our baby away from me to live in her native Peru then USA #8233You need to video everything to protect yourself. The system is VERY unfair!!!
In the mean time, try relax and come to grips with the situation for an outsiders perspective. Your situation is odd and there does not look an easy one to fix.
Keep up posted and let us know if we can help.
This is the system. As a woman, perhaps you can help us change it. (Sorry if I assumed you are a woman “states that my husband”
June 2, 2017 at 9:51 am in reply to: MPs and would be MPs are very open to discussion at the moment #8212Suicide is my key topic. The rail guys clean up someone’s death once a day on average (spreads for miles in some cases). there are not true statistics on why people kill themselves – most people don’t leave notes. But, we all have an idea on what at the contributing factors.
I never see suicide posters anywhere near the NHS, Mediation, Family Court or Pharmacies. But, I often look at the self-exam Breast Cancer posters… we should learn from the ladies and lump together better (no pun intended).
What if we started an organisation in both the NHS and Rail Industries with the same name. Then if one grows faster than the other we can reference each together. Might give us strength?
Currently, watching “”This Morning” – they are laughing saying mothers are raising princesses and princes and it is ruining society. I am waiting for them to mention dad. Oh – and Gwyneth Paltrow has now said “Modern Mothers have lost the plot”. I should say so!!!!!!!!
Personally, I would NEVER pay a solicitor to help with a family court case. There are no rules in court and the you will be wasting your money unless you needed someone to appear for you. If you are to travel to the court hearings,represent yourself.
I travel from London to Lincoln for every hearing and represent myself. Probably not at far as you will have to travel, but just an example.
June 2, 2017 at 9:39 am in reply to: Wife wants to take our baby away from me to live in her native Peru then USA #8206Mike,
What a story – horrible. I hope you are ok!Let me start with your questions:
1) The chances of you winning custody is very slim. Unless you have her mothers support to change things and she admits her wrong doing. Because she has custody now, you would have to produce evidence to say they child is in absolute danger and then prove that the baby is safer with you. It is a supreme gamble but may be the only option for you.
2) There is no such thing as a ‘Clean Break’ in regards to maintenance for your child. You are committed to support payment for a long time. The law states that there is no order which can be valid if it excludes the resident parent from applying for maintenance. Which means (if she is evil), she can take your money and then apply with the CSA/CMS the next day. You need a family based arrangement with her signature and proof she agrees. This is also something she can dispute later, but would take her some work.
3) In all likely hood you cannot stop her from leaving unless you get a court order stopping her – but then, she could still juts do it and there is nothing the UK law can do. My ex did this the other way round, she came to the UK from the States because of the crazy family court laws here. She knew there was nothing I (or the father of her other child) could do. The court here would make an order, but it would mean nothing as she was in Peru and the child was safe. She could just leave today and then there is nothing you can do. But, if she does leave the UK you will have no financial liability for the child and DO NOT need to pay maintenance (this is not a reason to let her leave, but is a small issue that needs raising before you agree to anything).It may be worth discussing money now if she is thinking of leaving the country. My ex breeds for profit and would never think of leaving the country and taking the kids away from Daddy’s bank account. The court here will only be interested in the kids, so focus your case from the thoughts of the baby and not the obvious “South American passion for mothering”. The court will possibly forgive her for her behaviour and hold you to higher account.
I could be wrong but this is how I see it. Hope it helps and keep your chin up. This aint easy!
June 2, 2017 at 9:19 am in reply to: What information should I put on the C1 and C1A application #8205C1A is a Domestic violence form. Sounds like she is claiming the child is in danger from you. You need to fight this constructively in court. A lawyer/solicitor is a waste of money from here on out…
Sounds like she is just wants you around less. You can argue the arrangement is fine (and the judge may rule in your favour) but it dos sound like your big problem is the allegations.
Remain calm and challenge back to for keeping the current arrangement – prove that the child is thriving because of your input and prey the mothers agrees. The court is actually powerless but lets hope your ex doesn’t know that.
Don’t get angry in court – NEVER. be cool.
Hello,
And you are amongst friends here. We are all in the same boat. Society assumes that the mother will have the kids and things may have been very different if you had left with the kids – leaving her at home.
Sadly, this sounds like you need to go to court and get her to agree a visitation schedule. Be very careful with solicitors as they will screw you in more ways than one.
The c100 form and about £250 will get you started but if you already have a documented agreement it might speed things up once you get to court.The sad truth is: once she took custody of the child she can now call the shots. The courts are void of emotion (unless your the crying mother) and everything you have done in the past will not count for much with them. Try to appeal to the mother now and save yourself a lot of time and money later.
I represented myself and had some significant wins along the way – many many false allegations came and went and over year but I hung tough. Now 9 years later, my girls are so alienated from me that we have no connection. As they are becoming older they are now asking the mum questions. These poor little girls have been destroyed by their mother. My story may not help you – but maybe your ex can see the damage she is causing your little one.
June 1, 2017 at 3:32 pm in reply to: MPs and would be MPs are very open to discussion at the moment #8197Times they may be -a changin’… we will see? I have met with the leader of the largest Woman’s Group and suggested a fair and balanced (diverse and inclusive) representation for the Fathers in Network Rail. My focus is the Dads and not the men. She has agreed to give budget to start the group.
That is the easy job. Now I need Dads to admit they have a problem. Our target launch is November for International Men’s Day.Lets see what happens. More as this story develops.
Oh no… it was the introduction meeting. Total bullshit, that is. Has your ex agreed to attend?
Keep us posted! and keep your chin up!
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